Ex Marks The Spot

Break ups are the hardest thing - no matter who you are or where you come from. It seems to be the one thing that everyone can relate to. I am definitely no expert on how to deal, but what I do know is that I have been through it a lot. Some I feel I could have handled a lot better, and some I really believe I handled just right. The good news is that if you handle it wrong, there is always time to make it right and apologize down the road which I just had to do recently with an ex.

The key to a breakup is DISTANCE! If you really want a clean break, you have to not talk, not e-mail, not see the ex for a while. Ladies, STOP going to the bars that you know they will be at because you want them to see you looking fabulous. It may make them jealous, however it is not healthy for you. I see and hear about this oh-too-often and it is so obvious. Everyone sees through it, and the only one hurt in the end is you.

If you are dealing with a stalking ex - as in you are done and he is still showing up at your doorstep and calling you and making you crazy, my only advice is to go live with someone for a week or so just to get away from it. You need to be surrounded by people who love and care about you at times like that.

There is no right or wrong way to deal when you are hurting, or hurting someone else. Just make sure that you handle it in a mature way and be honest with them.