Bisexual And Married

Have you ever noticed that when you buy a new car or get a new dog you suddenly see that car or dog everywhere? Such is it with bisexuality and marriage; you start talking about it, and suddenly bisexual married people are everywhere!

Despite how many of us there are, there is a not-so-subtle lack of resources out there, and I know why, but that's a different article entirely.

This article is about maintaining a marriage as a bisexual. More specifically, maintaining a marriage when you long for companionship from both men and women.

The difference is subtle, but important. Some bisexuals commit to one person and that's that. They are, presumably, still attracted to other men and women, but they do not act on any attraction except the one to their spouse.

Others struggle with the idea of being with one gender forever and long for the companionship of both men and women. If you fall into the latter category, you may wonder if marriage is even in the cards for you. As a happily married woman who also falls into that category, I can tell you there are ways to make it work.

Marriage can, at times, be difficult for anyone to maintain. There are constant sacrifices, debates and compromises, and there are times when you just want what you want, no matter how the other person may feel. These feelings can be magnified by the desire to be with both men and women while committed to one or the other.

Selfishness and insensitivity will only destroy a marriage, but ignoring those feelings will breed resentment. A middle way has to be found, and the answer is so cliché, it should come with its own trademark symbol.