Perception And Projection

Relationship is also a mirror in which we can see our self. However when you look at a reflection of your self, your invisible spiritual self, in the mirror of another person, you can never get a true reflection of yourself because the mirror is less than perfect. What comes back is what the other person sees in you.

A more accurate reflection of yourself in that moment can be found in how you see them. To a large extent you will see them not as they are but as you are. How and what you see in them is a reflection of what you are in that moment. This means that you project yourself onto the other and it's the projection itself that is more clearly describing the 'I' that is the self.

For example:
"I hate you", means I am a hateful self – in that moment it's the self that is full of hate
"You are a stupid fool", means I am being stupid and foolish about you – in that moment I am a being of stupidity and foolishness.

"The world is a frightening place", means I am a person filled with fright and fear
When this inner dynamic is understood, it becomes obvious you are only ever seeing and describing your self. Everything you see is a reflection of your self. You are surrounded by symbols of your self.