The Swinging Lifestyle: One Couple's Journey

Greg’s Story

I was a very sexual person from the start. Upon entering puberty, I started educating myself about sex. I'd discovered my mother’s stash of adult books and magazines, including “The Joy of Sex” and Penthouse Forum. As a pre-teen, I even engaged in some experimental sex play with both my godsister and a first cousin. However, as a rather shy adolescent, I didn’t lose my virginity until I was nearly 18.

My curiosity about sex led me to sneaking into adult stores while I was still in high school. During one such visit, I discovered a section of swinger contact magazines. I bought a few, and I was intrigued by the idea of hooking up with like-minded individuals for uncomplicated, recreational sex. Through one of these magazines, I eventually met up with a 40-something couple during my junior year in college. I served as the wife’s boy-toy for several months.

During this same period, I also started experimenting with my college girlfriend. She turned out to be just as sexual as I was, so she was willing to experiment. We never visited a swing club or swapped with another couple, but we did engage in a handful of threesomes with other men.

My first couple-to-couple experience didn’t happen until 1991 with my first post-college girlfriend. We hooked up with a couple we met through an ad in an alternative newspaper rather than in your standard swinger’s magazine. Believe it or not, this couple eventually moved in with us, but that didn’t last long due to some severe personality differences.

Next in line was my common-law wife. We stayed together for more than six years, but although she was open to swinging, we had a great deal of difficulty finding couples we could play with.