Why Are We So Into Playas?

Next time you're sitting across from a new dude, ask yourself if you're going for Bull or a Big Teddy Bear? Because if you want to cuddle up to someone long term... the Bull will buck you outta bed faster then you can moooo-ve.

By Citizen Correspondent Stacey P

Date Posted: 05/31/08

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When cows mate, they all go for the same bull, and that bull has to work that pen like no one's business. It's known that once a Bull hits it with a lady cow, he never goes back. Hence, he is the ultimate of animal playas... ladies in the city, I don't know about you, but I think Toronto is turning into that "pen".

Are we drawn to "The Bull" because we have no other choice? Or is it age? As young women, do we tend to want the Alpha because we know he's the "man" or is it a just personality defect?

As Alpha women, we achieve what we want, when we want, and how we want! We don't settle for less,and of course, we want the very best of everything! Ladies, if we're working that hard for "something" then there's gotta be a payoff, right? Like Beyonce says, "the shoes on my feet, I bought em!"

That said, do Alpha "Dawgs" or "Playas" somehow fit that mold of attraction? They're cute, they're motivated and most of the time they have the very best of everything to offer.

The Playa comes in many different forms, and I'm sure ladies everywhere have cursed themselves and said, "I'm not dating anyone anymore, guys are just players and I'm sick of it." Or "I date all different types of guys and nothing works out. What's wrong with me?"

What's wrong is that you're probably used to getting everything you want. With hard work and determination the sky's the limit, and the world's an oyster, but when it comes to love and relationships, they just have to happen.

You can't force a person to love you and you can't plan your next boyfriend like an appointment for a pedicure. Although you may think you're dating different types of men, the common thread might just be that "BULL FACTOR". That is, the inaccessible, the emotionally unavailable/wounded, the made-over, and the Odepus Rex-us Playa's. Lets' take a look at what's out there... let's breakdown the playa!

The Inaccessible: Usually some sort of business or professional type, and is too involved with work and friends to make you a priority.