When I purchased one and had it installed in my bedroom, I was ecstatic. I looked forward to losing weight and doing sexy shows for my man. What I didn't expect though, was the return of my confidence, sensuality, and feminine power.
I'd never really learned any incredible pole moves while I was dancing. I was too uncomfortable about making an ass of myself whilst shaking my ass in front of the customers. Most of my pole moves consisted of dancing around the pole, leaning against it, bending over towards it, and some rudimentary spins.
But armed with a cd player, a mirror, and the solitude of my bedroom - my own personal pole became my one-woman vertical trapeze. Overnight my arms started to look cut and my legs bruised. Every day I would put my son down for his nap, turn on the music, and become a sex goddess for no one's viewing pleasure but my own.
All those 'ladies gym' debits from my bank account, and all the flabby tummy in the world, couldn't inspire me to workout. But the promise of feeling sexy, sensuous, and shapely overcame me like wildfire. A wildfire that started in my hips, moved to my torso and breasts, and settled back down in my yoni creating an insatiable desire for the sex that had been lacking in my relationship ever since I'd been pregnant with my youngest child.
I was so inspired that I wanted to share my epiphany with every woman I met! Most of my family members declined my invitations to come over and swing around the pole. Most of my friends found my exhortations on the benefits of the pole amusing but not enticing.
In my usual over-the-top way, I decided to bring pole dancing to the multitudes.




Comments
I've been hearing this buzz
By Hazel8500, July 17, 2007 at 15:15I've been hearing this buzz phrase lately "Sex Positive" its sad an actual term needs to be coined to describe such a refreshing attitude because in the coining of the term there is an admission that this positivity is the minority rather than the norm.
With cultural teachers such as yourself, I am fully optimistic those reveling in their own sexual positivity will only increase.
I've gone from one end of the spectrum, of being fearful and shamed over my femininity, to a place where I am bursting with pride for being born a girl, and capable of enjoying the beauty of being a woman.
Now, where do I go to get me a pole for my boudoir?
Hi Hazel, well if you're in
By Trina Ricketts, July 18, 2007 at 10:52Hi Hazel, well if you're in Canada I would encourage you to support other Canadian's who are selling poles and go through either www.polejunkies.com or www.tantrafitness.com (under pricing). If you're in the states, you can order from lil minx or platinumstages.com (where I got my portable pole). If you ask different ppl, they will give different answers for which pole is best. I'd say the best recommendation would be to consistently and frequently make sure your pole is tightened if it is not fully installed.
Fabulous! Thank you. I'll
By Hazel8500, July 18, 2007 at 20:06Fabulous! Thank you. I'll definitely check them out.