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Mary Jane And The Other Woman

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I used to think addiction could be casual.


I used to say I'd take a pot smoker any day over an alcoholic. I was married to a drinker who turned violent under the influence. Then I married an occasional user. '
By Citizen Correspondent Heide Kaminski , U.S.A.
Date Posted: 04/05/07
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I wrote this short essay a few years ago when my marriage was falling apart due to my husband's excessive use of pot. I have since left him, slowly pulling myself out of the financial strain he put upon me. I am always disturbed when people say that marijuana is harmless. I know better.

I thought I was married to T. We tied the knot in 1997 after living together for almost three years. I wanted my tubes tied, he wanted a son. So I said not without a marriage certificate. We had our little boy less than a year later.

All these years I thought I was married to him. But now I know better. And the truth is painful. I am the other woman. He is really married to Mary Jane and has been all of the time that I have known him. I was so blind that all this time I knew Mary Jane and I thought she was just his casual friend.

You see; Mary Jane does not care. She is very possessive and her grip on any man (or woman under her spell) is ironclad. But she has no feelings. She cannot love. She cannot care. She can only destroy.

She is very good at convincing her victims that she is wonderful. She is very good at making them believe that she is worth losing all the people who love you. Or destroy them if they dare to tell you that she is bad.

Mary Jane is very vicious, and even more so, as her vicious ways are so deceiving that you cannot see what she is doing. She makes you feel good. She makes you carefree. She makes you the center of her world. She is also very demanding. If you don't pay her proper attention she can make you so sick that you beg for her to take you back.

I cannot do all that. I am a human. I have emotions. So some days I am too tired, too grouchy, too sick, too stressed out to make the man of my life the center of my life.


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It would be great if

By codeblue, April 6, 2007 at 14:35

It would be great if everyone in the world ran around completely unmedicated and unaltered, but seeing that isn't the case, an endless supply of stories exist about human beings abuses and misuses of everything from alcohol, perscription medication, drugs, food, gambling......and so on.

But, evidence overwelming supports the fact that marijuana has many more benefits than it does negatives when consumed wisely.

Well said Code Blue. Of all

By luyen, April 13, 2007 at 19:01

Well said Code Blue. Of all the ills in the world, marijuana ranks pretty low in my book.

Interesting stuff. I know

By Richard Day Gore, April 5, 2007 at 16:25

Interesting stuff. I know plenty of pot smokers. Some are wake 'n' bake potheads; I think they probably have the addictive gene and what seems like a pleasant enough habit is actually a powerful addiction for them. From my own experience and from observing others it doesn't make you lazy the way the doomsayers shout. But it does remove the sense of urgency from practically everything, so for my acquaintences who are heavy users you could certainly say that it has contributed to lots of wasted time, lost opportunities, and impaired perceptions and relationships. As such I tend to take the word "wasted" at its literal face value. And of course THC is a drug, and in the hands of the wrong user a drug can do great harm. Conversely, I know plenty of casual pot smokers whose lives seem unaffected by it--except, of course, for the fun and relaxation it can engender. I have never, to my knowledge, seen a person who is high on pot get violent or abusive, as is so often the case with alcohol.

Richard Day Gore

That's a very touching story

By luyen, April 5, 2007 at 19:05

That's a very touching story - i'd have to say if I had to choose, a non-loving person is preferable in the sense that they don't harm anybody at least.

But in both cases the anger and apathy are chemically induced and maintained, i think every time there's a dependence on something external like that, if you abuse it, then you lose your sense of inner self.

Like you mentioned Richard, different people get affected in different ways... i hope the author can find a way to ween her partner off the drug.

As enjoyable and relaxing as it can be at times, i think it's much more beneficial in the long term to cultivate similar qualities on an internal level.

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